O WOMAN! LOVE THYSELF

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This lady in the recent Bollywood flick, had delivered dialogues for the few camouflaged notions of our society. One of them was the hard hit to the member of the fair sex in which she says, ‘aurat anaj uga bhi sakti hai, paka bhi sakti hai. Bachcha paida bhi kar sakti hai, bada bhi kar sakti hai. Dekhne jae to aurto ko mardo ki koi khas zarurat waise hai nahi. Par ye bat agar aurto ko pata chal gai to mard bechare ka baja nahi baj jaega?’ ("Women can farm and cook. We can give birth to children and raise them. If you think about it, women don't really need men at all. But if women figured this out, men would be screwed, wouldn't they?")

If women are capable of leading their lives on their own, who is stopping them from doing it? Today’s woman is smart, self-independent, educated and so much ahead of time. She is a teacher, a scientist, an astronaut and what not. Still, when its about the relationship with the opposite sex, she is always the weaker partner (except a few of them; of course). Many successful women are in a toxic relationship so that they are not required to lead a life unchaperoned. Loneliness is a disease for some people but if one is able to achieve mastery in leading the life unaccompanied; they are the happiest people on this earth.

Here, the point is not to motivate the gentlewoman to move away from any healthy relationship, but it is to inculcate and embrace in her the quality of self-love. In order to impress others, especially the masculine junta, she forgets the priority of her life. And so, she fails to love herself by loving others and making their life happy and comfortable.

Recently, when on a Mother’s Day function held by a school, it was noticed that when the mother’s were given the opportunity to present any desirous performance of themselves on the stage, they chose to present their child instead of self. The management was disappointed because it was a platform for the mother as well as the woman who were mostly homemakers, such as to showcase their talent because children were already given immense opportunities. And it was their day; a day dedicated to the mothers. But they chose to remain happy by not showcasing their inner aptitude. It is actually heartbreaking to find a woman in such a position where she does not even know her likes, dislikes and the calibre (if there is any).

Women need to ponder on this. They should break the shackles if required and if one is leading a happy and beautiful life, then she should judge the parameters of her self love. Because if she is being loved by herself, then she requires no one to love her. She should be able to differentiate and prioritise her needs at the outset.

They are capable of doing the most difficult task on this earth- PROCREATION. Subsequently, nurturing and bringing up the child and making him or her to a full-grown human.

And after enduring so much, does she really need someone else to hold her when she falters?

 

 

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