TO FORGIVE OR NOT TO?

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“Grace comes to forgive and then forgive again.”- Rumi.

The act of forgiveness is a two-way path.

To seek forgiveness.

To forgive.

It requires most of the discerned courage to accept one’s fault and asked to be forgiven by the person whom it was intentionally or unknowingly being hurt. But it provides immense happiness and satisfaction once this act is done without being prejudiced. It provides the independence to face the person unescorted by any guilt. And oneself will earn the freedom of the feathered friends flying up at the sky. This provides the inner calmness and tranquillity of mind.

The act of giving forgiveness is tougher than the above proclaimed feat. It pinches the wounds which were once fathomless and might have healed with time or might not have. In fact, time, mostly, does not heal but puts several layers on it, thus, hiding it somewhere thick and far down. To forgive is to accept the inner lacerations which are throbbing deep inside. To forgive is to ‘Let go’ of the lingering pain and the bitterness that had impeded the breathes. Here, forgiveness does not mean to forget everything and get along with those who had actually blemished you. It is necessary to free oneself from the dungeon of pain and suffering created by the wrongdoing. It is salient to make oneself happy again and this is achieved only by letting go of the stinging pain by forgiving those who had hurt. The aim is to release oneself from the cocooned acrimonious world.

But, before being able to forgive others or to seek same from others, it is important to be able to forgive ‘self’ from all the guilts or curses thrown by oneself. The humanly nature permits one to take the privilege to speak anything obnoxious to self which unknowingly impacts the confidence and abilities to achieve anything one wants. The urgent need is to pervade through these privileged judgements, letting oneself free from guilts and hate. Self-love and self-respect for ‘self’ is the utmost priority of an individual.

Rumi when prudently stated the above affirmation, desired to convey the humanity about the ‘grace’, which could only be achieved by following the two-way path of seeking forgiveness and so by forgiving others. Both the ways would ignite the peace within, which, further no longer be required to be pursued outside into the world.

 

 

 

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  1. AnonymousMay 28, 2024 at 11:01 AM

    Wonderful read. A profound topic has been presented in a concise and beautiful way.

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  2. AnonymousMay 28, 2024 at 9:35 PM

    Exquisite ,as always....

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